Today’s post is a guest post by the amazing Nons Mshengu all about finding yourself again after a depressive episode. This feels really relevant to me at the moment and I loved reading this post, so I hope you will too! Nons is a self-care and self-improvement blogger who runs Cher Belle. She is a 22-year-old digital creative who loves to inspire others to be the best versions of themselves.
As someone who has struggled with depression from a young age, I have faced my fair share of depressive episodes. As well as the period of loss and confusion that comes afterwards. It can be so tough mentally to not only do everything you used to do before your depressive episode but even tougher to feel like yourself afterwards. What I have learned over the years is that there’s no one way to heal after a depressive episode. Nor is there a right way to heal. But there are a few things you can do that can help restore balance and joy back into your life.
Allow Yourself Time To Heal From Your Depressive Period
Getting back to a functional place in your life will take time. Give yourself grace and allow yourself time to take as long as you need. There is no timeline to when you will find moments of happiness again. Depression doesn’t just take away your mental and emotional normalcy, but also physically. You won’t immediately snap back to having energy and doing all your daily tasks with ease, you won’t immediately want to go out with friends and you won’t immediately want to take up your hobbies again and that’s okay. You have to be patient with yourself and treat yourself with tenderness, you will eventually fulfil all your emotional and physical desires again.
Do One Small Thing That Makes You Feel Good
The purpose of doing a small thing for yourself is that you can slowly start to fill up your own cup again. Whatever small thing that would usually make you smile, incorporate it into your weekly routine. If you love flowers, buy yourself some flowers you can have in your space so it brightens your mood. Suppose you love to cook or bake, try a new recipe that you think you’d like. If you love to listen to music, listen to a great playlist that will uplift you, make you dance and make you feel affirmed! I have a great self-care playlist that you can listen to when you need something to lift your mood. There are many other small things you can do such as going for a walk in a beautiful garden or the beach, writing in your journal to let those negative emotions out or painting something silly to get your creative juices flowing
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Slowly Start To Let People Back In Your Life
Something I struggle the most with after a depressive episode is letting people back into my life. Whenever I am depressed, I shut people out and isolate myself. I choose to deal with my episodes alone and often to the detriment of my other personal relationships. What I have learned is that the people that love you will always want to help you and it’s okay to let them help you. Extend boundaries so that you feel comfortable, but let people know that you are okay and include your closest people in your healing journey. Invite your friend to go on a walk with you, you don’t have to talk but sometimes they just want to be there and you need to know you are supported. So, find ways to let them know you value them in your life without compromising your own healing journey.
Create A New Daily Routine
Routines are the best way to create order and productivity back in your life. Having a consistent routine that makes you feel good and most importantly at peace is what’s going to keep you going. Morning routines and night routines are the most important and usually, are the glue that keeps us together. Your morning routine doesn’t have to be those super Instagram worthy routines, but make it personal to you and your needs. I have my non-negotiable three that I always do in the morning which is: make my bed, write in my gratitude journal and then make myself a delicious vanilla iced latte. These three things are non-negotiable because they make me feel good and make my morning peaceful so I actually, look forward to starting my day. So find those things that you feel good about and make sure they are part of your morning routine.
What I truly want for you to take away from this post is that you are going to heal after your depressive episode. You will find moments of happiness and laughter again and you will slowly start to feel like yourself again. Remember that you are valued and important. Your life is worth everything to someone and everything will get better.
Thank you so much to Nons for writing this brilliant post, you can find her on social media below:
If you are going through a tough time, remember that you can call a helpline:
Best wishes, Cx